Are You an "Old Soul"?

The particular life challenges and destined events that are the hallmark of being an old soul.

If you're an old soul you will undoubtedly be giving, caring loving and compassionate - all wonderful attributes that we are taught are the signs of a developed person who cares for others, and the actions that we take that may affect others.

The key signs of an old soul

  • Giving and caring often putting others first

  • Had a difficult romantic life often with much pain and disappointment

  • More than likely had a soul mate relationship

  • Things just seem to happen to you and around you, often becoming very dramatic through the seemingly extreme reactions of others

  • Events repeat themselves

  • Have trouble connecting with your family

  • Somehow know you're different

  • Have some psychic intuition and 'just knowing' things

  • Find that you have deeper emotions and passions than most people

  • People have extreme reactions to you - some just adore you and some seem to really dislike you yet you behave the same to everyone

  • Have an inner creative passion

  • Suffer lots of jealousy

  • Often perceived wrongly

  • Feel your don't have much free will, like your life is being controlled by some outside force

  • Often feel 'stuck' like events just keep on happening to you time after time

All of us can relate to some of these characteristics and events at some time in our lives however the 'old souls' amongst us will shout "Yes that's me!" and immediately understand and relate.

In contrast, we have all met the 'young souls' the ones who profess to be giving and caring and often seem to seek us out, but who never really give, just take, and who then commit the most insensitive and often cruel acts but seem to have no understanding of what they've done or any sign of remorse whatsoever. In fact they can often go to such extremes to get very aggressive when we point out their actions and the effect that they've had on us.

Soul Age

The terms 'old soul' and 'young soul' aren't just descriptions of personality types but do give us a meaningful clue to why we find ourselves in this life cycle

The journey of the soul through many lives is one of growth and learning from the earliest manifestation of that soul in human form - where it's focused on material things, power, ego and the "now", eventually through to the higher levels of compassion, truth, destiny, caring and fairness in later lives as old souls.

The soul is required to visit human form many times in order to learn these lessons. It is through interaction with others on the three dimensional plane that the soul accrues karma, the results of its actions on others and paying the price of those actions ( first rule of karma "what goes around comes around" - or what I often refer to as the 'karmic boomerang') that develops, hones, and tunes the spirit into the higher levels, eventually becoming attuned to the highest level of as 'old soul' in later lives.

Part of that developing process is to become infinitely more emphatic, attuned to the universe and destiny, and for our intuition to develop more towards psychic powers. At this stage we sense that destiny plays a greater part in our lives that we could previously have imagined as we 'peek behind the scenes' of the universal mechanisms through our developing intuition.

This itself is also a challenge as we watch those less enlightened who are still contained in the "I know best" mode, mess up their lives going wandering down the wrong path. Typical of this is the soul mate where we are tasked to watch them wander off knowing somehow that the tests they will face will ultimately bring them back around, older, wiser and more spiritually aware.

It's important to understand that each time our soul revisits the earthly plane, that we play 'catch-up', developing through our earthly actions and learning experiences quickly to regain that level of spiritual awareness we attained when leaving the previous life. In other words, in entering this life we are initially unconscious of the fact that we are required to have a very testing life to 'fast track' us to the spiritual level we are meant to be at in this one.

So the older the soul, the harder and more testing the early events in order to make us reach inside and spiritually open to regain previously achieved levels of spirituality and to further develop.

'Soul age' with Soul mates

I've already mentioned that we have all had to deal with the 'young souls', the ones who seem sent to test us and can often leave us feeling dazed and confused and hurt.

At this point I have to highlight something that's particularly important and relevant to soul mates. Your soul mate is unlikely to be a young soul even though their actions to-date may fit what we've described as a young soul.

We get terribly confused when we sense they are loving and caring and deep and spiritually enlightened yet they frequently behave in the totally opposite way.

The important difference between a soul mate and a young soul is that the universe does not connect young souls with old souls in soul mate connections. What your soul mate is most likely going through is the life tests on that "fast track" , i.e learning fast and developing to their real soul age through meeting all the tough tests and making all the mistakes, acting in that earthly controlled, ego based, "I know best" way.

Hence the duality of their existence and the confusion they cause within our lives. What you are sensing is that destiny. It's the butterfly sensing another butterfly but seeing a caterpillar.

This is the main reason soul mates have to part, in order that the less developed one catches up with their earthly experiences in order to fully awaken spiritually and be ready to reconnect with their real soul age from the past life and to reconnect with you to continue the journey at the same spiritual level.

Energy Vampires and Attack

Old souls will also be no strangers to people who try to cling to, or take or attack our energy. Often the more we give to people the more abuse we take. It's an extreme example of the "no good deed goes unpunished" rule.

Energy vampires are those who somehow spiritually sense our power and energy to come into our lives to using us as a crutch, often draining us through their need to explain their problems and us be the solution.

Frequently they will use our caring, giving nature to assist them with their lives, often becoming too close and draining and we don't seem to be able to find a way to tell them that this is something we aren't comfortable with and so we allow it to continue to an abusive level.

Most times the person clinging to us won't be aware of why they are doing this they just sense, feel that we have something they need that causes them to be drawn closer and closer.

This is because their spirit, their energy senses a more powerful energy. It's not on an ego awareness plane, we're not talking 'mind' stuff here we're talking spiritual energy which all of us sense even if we aren't realizing it. It's on the "there's something about him/her" level.

Some will migrate to that energy for healing and comfort, the 'karmic vampire', others will fall for the energy in a romantic way and become instantly attached, with others seeking us out as a focus for blame and negative attention ( karmic dumping ). When confronted with their actions, even in the most caring and compassionate of ways, aggression and blame are often the responses they visit upon us as they lash out.

Jealous bosses or co-workers, unwanted sexual attention, being 'picked out', blamed, the focus of attention when we don't want to be - all of these are classic symptoms.. Yes anyone will experience some of this in their daily lives but what we are talking here is something that happens to the old soul again and again at a frequency and intensity far above anything that can statistically be considered average.

Now you may think the word attack is rather strong and negativity and conflict are a common phenomenon of everyday human interaction, however any old soul will point out the frequency and veracity of their experiences- often amazing others when they hear the stories.

I always say that an old soul can walk into a room full of people and without even saying a word, three others will adore them and three hate them instantaneously.

The importance of power.

As we grow and learn, parents' teachers, mentors, the media, religious teachings and other influences in our lives all teach us that being giving and kind and caring and turning the other cheek are vital to being a good human being. True of course.
So why do we more caring, more giving, more compassionate old souls often feel walked over by life?

As in all things there is a duality. Look at nature - there's no cold without hot, no up without down, no dark without light. The yin and the yang, the interplay of opposing forces seeking balance.

Although conventional teaching is to keep pouring love and light and openness and giving into situations there is a point where we become depleted. There is a point where our love and compassion can cause us to give more than is healthy, to accept more than is our lot, and when we run out of cheeks to turn.

Herein lies one of the most important karmic lessons in that, we must seek balance. We must maintain our own personal power and not allow love, compassion and "thinking the best of people" to become voluntary abuse when that person or persons repays us with negativity.

Allowing this to happen encourages lowering self-esteem, feelings of abandonment, and a sense that destiny has left us behind when people are responding to us in a very negative way. For many of us this is a lesson that takes many years to learn.

Most of use will have experienced abuse of our energy in different situations from work, family and relatives, within friendships and especially in personal relationships.

We often give too much because we are giving people, and through that action diminish our personal power. Give love and light YES, pray for people YES, BUT I believe that it is essential for all of us to sometimes have to fight to protect the incredible value of our energy to realize it is a rare thing and to value it even when others don't.

In achieving balance we understand that giving love and light and having compassion and caring and understanding of people, especially those that are afflicted and confused by negativity is essential but is only one half of that balance. Love and light won't get your elephant off the tracks so sometimes we need to use our power in an assertive way.

The old soul experience comes with many such tests. This is not about giving less or giving to receive, it is to balance our giving and loving and caring with a total respect for the gold that is our own energy...In all things balance.

"To thine own self be true", William Shakespeare

Domain Expiration + Email Subscriptions = Identity Theft

I’ve never heard or read anything on this subject, but it concerns me to the highest degree.

I have a domain name expiring. Typically I don’t care and just let them die a happy death. The next question is something every domain owner should think about.

What about domains that were once extremely important, and necessary for business function, that are now no longer relevant?

Let’s say you own a company that sells widgets at the fictitious domain of This company is successful for a few years, you make some money, and are happy. Unfortunately something happens and either your business model fails or a life event happens. You are now out of business, say your goodbyes, and close up shop without a care in the world.

8 months later your domain expires and get sucked into a domain grabbers account.

But what if that new domain owner doesn’t have good intentions? was YOUR business 8 months ago and now, your old and forgotten domain, is in the hands of someone else.

Usually the majority of us don’t care what happens to our expiring domains.

What is to stop someone from, say, receiving emails at their newly acquired domain?

So lets go through this.

  • You owned a business and a website

  • You let domain expire as expected

  • Someone now has access to your old email address

All it takes is someone to register your old domain name and setup a catch-all email address for the domain to then receive emails. What people never think about is all those services they’ve signed up for and used over the course of their domains life. Forums, mailing lists, bank accounts, cash flow management sites, social media accounts… the list goes on.

If you’ve used your email address anywhere, then it is quite easy for someone to watch incoming emails and wait for something that looks important. They can then use it maliciously. Some would argue that forums and email lists aren’t really important, but why wouldn’t they be when they were 100% yours? Nobody knows that “you” are no longer “you”.

Ever went to a website and forgot your password or login credentials? Typically there is a link that says “Forget Password?”, you click on it and it pulls up an email field with a submit button. This is extremely convenient…even for those that shouldn’t have access.

What should I do?

Your best defense against this type of issue would be to save all your emails since you began using your account. Look through all the emails for anything you’d signed up for: services, forums, etc. If the service is no longer necessary, then try to get it deleted or cancelled. But let’s be honest, it’s the internet and once you use a service you never really can remove all existence from using said service. Sometimes you can cancel or delete your account, but it may be a better idea to change your email address, for those services, to something more permanent.

Since I use GMail and I have a domain expiring then I searched the past 4 years history for all services that were attached with my email address. I found 15 different services, couldn’t remember the logins, reset passwords, then changed them to use my personal email address (with a twist [ added a dot in the username ]).

This probably ins’t the best post structure on the issue, but I believe you get the understanding that your expired domain is not something to just forget about.

Please be weary on what can happen when your domain expires.

Protect yourself from identity theft.
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Lupe Fiasco Misses the Old Days in ‘Old School Love’

Lupe Fiasco misses the good old days. The rapper reminisces about the simpler times in his hometown Chicago in his new video ‘Old School Love.’

Lu tries to see the world from the eyes of today’s youth in the Coodie and Chike-directed spot. Grammy-nominated singer Ed Sheeran, who provides vocals on the track, joins the rapper in the end of the visual. ‘Old School Love’ appears on Lupe’s upcoming ‘Tetsuo & Youth’ album, due to release in 2014.

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Ever Fall In Love With The 'Wrong' Person?

They shared a love that some would say is too complicated to survive. The way Usman Hameedi describes his passion gave me a heartache at 1:05, and the hopelessness he describes at 2:03 is almost too much to bear.

Poem Postmarked for the Middle East

We were two-state solution complex.
She, Star of David necklace
Me, Keffiyeh around neck.
But some things were simple:
when I glanced from across the room
Faith smiled, radiance of Mecca.

Adonai and Allah ask our people for Friday prayer
so I attended Shabbat services and
Faith was the only Jewish woman at Jummah.

Forbidden Commandments.
While Abraham’s children fought bloody,
we parted red seas,
exodus to smooth lands of milk and honey.
Our Bodies intertwined like messages in Torah and Quran.
Beneath the starry splatter paint masterpiece of God,
I held her answered prayers thankful.

Our moaning drowned out the war cries,
harsh Hebrew and Arabic
Our orgasms were our resistance
When your lover is the target
political terms have their face,
bullets aimed at their skull.

In Conflict, Dialogue is survival.
It is necessity, despite its difficulty.
Yes, we poached the elephant in the room.
Words like sharp ivory tusk:
Zionist. Apartheid. Hamas. Hitler.
These conversations
were jagged rocks thrown at tanks.
Learning is an ugly experience.
Faith pissed me the fuck off
I tried her patience.

Still, we knew an angry fist
is just wilted fingers, flowers fallen in drought
Our hands were open invitations
Kisses silenced rockets
Muted those that told us
Our Holy Books cannot coexist.
I am Terrorist and Faith is Occupier.

With peace treaties on our tongues,
we exhaled new scriptures into the walls of Mosques and Synagogues
hoping to purge asbestos animosity.
We knew it was temporary.
I forgot the expiration date.
Before leaving, she said:
“Habibi, please share our story.”
Dead Sea trickled from her emerald eyes
And I mourned, sat shiva for months

chaim shali
neshema sheli
I wanted to reconstruct my collarbone into Jerusalem
so you could breathe prayer onto the Western Walls of my chest.

Even from Israel,
I hear Assalamualaikum
spoken in your accent, carried on wind whisper.
I respond, press my hands into The Atlantic, Shalom,
my rippling affection crossing continents.

Will I ever see you again?
If I do, I will be an atheist
rediscovering his former religion.
Baruch Ata Adonai
Bismillah Ir Rahman Rahim
I’ll hold you like prayer beads
humbled by the beauty of Faith.

Safetysuit - These Times

I have to pronounce the album as being completely perfect. It’s the first new album I’ve listened to in a long time that made me really feel not only happy, but lucky that I even got to hear such genuinely good music. It’s the kind of album that you can listen to multiple times and never get bored, so I highly recommend it.

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The Head and the Heart - Let's Be Still

This album doesn't grab you as abrasively out-of-the-gates, as did the first. But with that soft start comes a quiet confidence in their song writing.

One of my favorite songs off their last outing 'Cats & Dogs' has this sort of nervous energy to it, which lends itself to the "pay attention" call of that album.

This album realizes it doesn't have to do that to win your attention. It rests a bit more, but only on its well-earned laurels. A nice surprise.

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